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Yes….No…Maybe…Well it all depends on your emotional intelligence; your Intelligence of the emotions….

Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to your capacity and skill set to perceive and manage emotions. Will you become emotionally attached whereas your partner may not be equally as emotionally attached, or vice versa?

Normal development of emotion, (being able to know, feel and judge feelings in cooperation with your thinking process for appropriate behavior, with an ultimate happiness in yourself and in others) leads to a healthy life.

Healthy sex = healthy life.

Therefore, evaluating your emotional intelligence is important. Alike personality tests, your level of emotion is called Emotional Quotient (EQ) and can be obtained by taking an emotional intelligence test (see below). But, here is a briefing on all that goes into your emotional intelligence.

1. How do you perceive, use, understand and initiate emotions?

2. Self- Awareness: you understand your emotions and recognize their impact.

3. Self-Management: you are able to adapt through having control over your emotions.

4. Relationship Management: you are able to inspire, develop and influence others during conflict.

5. Personal Competencies: you know your internal state (accurate self-assessment, self confidence, self regulation, motivation & self expectations)

5. Social Competencies: you are able to handle relationships (actively show interest in other peoples’ concerns and perspectives, ability to identify other’s needs, weaknesses, and strengths, communicating clearly with others, ability to influence effectively, and leadership)

Although, the research of emotional intelligence is fairly new in the psychological realm, there are runoff individual and social benefits to gain from analyzing your own emotional intellect. Utilize your intelligence by learning how to manage, modify, or change your existing level of emotions. Which could mean having sex on the first date, getting attached and suppressing those feelings (highly unfortunate), or managing your lusty feelings, physical connectedness, and inner feelings in a healthy manner, or not feeling anything (also highly unfortunate).

So tell me, are you having sex on the first date?

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“Someone once told me the definition of hell:

The last day you have on earth, the person you become will meet the person you could have become.”

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“Without purpose, meaning and perspective, it is easy to lose hope, numb our emotions, or become overwhelmed by our circumstances.”

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“Education is not the learning of facts, but the training of the mind to think.” -Albert Einstein

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Dec 2

We have all struggled with procrastination at one time or another, procrastination inherently means avoidance, and overcoming procrastination at its simplest means no longer postponing an important task, but more importantly overcoming avoidance of fear, doubt, self-pity, or hedonism.

Tis’ the time to be thankful. Although, I am thankful everyday for the patience and support of you all.

New posts, new information, and new updates are coming full throttle! Thank you for being patient and, anticipate the excitement that is heavily on its way! I have a lot I want to incorporate, display, and play with! I hope you are half as excited as I am =)

In the meantime, enjoy your holidays. Enjoy the time that is focused and dedicated to joy. Trust me, I know it’s more than difficult to find joy in the chaos, hatred, and misery that is engulfing our eyes and hearts. But, in the spirit of the holidays and in the company of the ones we love and hold nearest to our hearts we can try to.

We try. we always try!
<3Kamala

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Nov 18

Decompressing – woosaa! We all stress, we all have worries, pressures, and nerves. Therefore, it is important to know how to manage these demands and anxieties. Mindfully and continuously being attentive and making time to decompress allows for you to ultimately feel less stress in your life and achieve a peaceful state of mind; achieve a feeling of freedom where you give into your desires of being relaxed. Decompressing is accomplished by removing the accumulated tensions all throughout your body. There are many established decompression techniques such as acupuncture, chiropractic, and meditation. An easy method for decompressing is to get a massage, professional or from someone nearby. **Touch has a remarkable impact on people and can be very significant in creating relaxation. Decompressing can also be achieved when alone. Self-massage is legitimate and massaging your own shoulders, neck, head or lower back helps loosening up your body’s tension and relax each muscle one at a time. Don’t be afraid to use some lotion or even some honey ;). A simply walk, jog, or run outside in nature can work wonders for the mind, body, and soul. The trick is to allow your IMAGINATION to outshine your pragmatic worries and concerns, let your mind decompress from all realities. Additionally, *disconnecting* from the world for some time adds to full decompression. Along with turning of the phones and computes you could even turn off the lights and take a nap to reset yourself for the rest of the day…/your life. If all else fails, take a deep breath, hold it, then let it out slowly. As you let it out slowly, imagine all the tension and stress in your body flowing out of you with your breath. Repeat this as many times as necessary. Decompression should not be a last resort for dealing with high stress, instead, it should be a daily process of preparing yourself for your own life. In the long run, decompressing everyday will increase your overall composure, happiness and health all while lowering your stress levels and anxiety.

The ultimate goal of self-care is to help you grow as a person.

The path of self-care involves an approach towards life supplemented with your own personal motivation. The feeling is similar to waking up with a full tank of gas, so that your motor is ready to go at any time! Take notice however, self-care takes dedication, commitment, and persistence. The rewards are restoring your energy level and your ability to interact and cope with the external world in a balanced, productive, and restorative manner. All-encompassing, I often speak to the vitality of mental and physical health. In continuance, the three main components of self-care are:

Physical: taking care of your body all the time is essential. This means committing to a lifestyle that engages your muscles, moves your body, and fuels your body. A rollover effect is that you will be more aware when you are getting sick. In return, self-care means paying a visit to the doctor when you are sick. Feed yourself something that comes from the earth (not man-made/from a drive through) and exercise, do yoga, dance, stretch, walk or ride a bike. Get active, be active, stay active!
Mental: How are you…?up there..? Have you been in connection with your support systems (friends/family/partner) lately? Have you been staying up to date with your interests and doing things for fun? Whether you have been surrounded by others or alone, dedicate time to doing the things you enjoy most. If you have difficulty remembering the things you enjoy, try thinking of the things you enjoyed when you were a child (draw/make paper-airplanes/paint).
Spiritual: Spiritual self-care is the union of the physical and the mental. Taking care of yourself encompasses developing a practice that employs your mind and soul. Whether it be group, collective activities or individual activities, exploring yourself allows you to identify your values and your priorities. Spiritually explore through prayer, meditation, or attending services where you can contribute to the wellbeing of others as well!

Self-care does not equate selfishness, nor self-centeredness. Rather, self-care exemplifies a chain reaction. Taking care of yourself physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually contains a series of events directly correlated with taking care of others. In order to properly tend to others, one must sustain and nourish his or her own nature. By attuning to your individuality you can effectively attain balance, develop bodily health and wellbeing, and fruitfully communicate your returns to others.

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SELF CARE